When a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly unpleasant experience. And this doesn’ t even need to be a relationship was fulfilling or healthy; as it can be painful no matter how ‘ good’ or ‘ bad’ it was.
So this implies that someone can have the desire to get back using their ex and for the relationship to continue even though this might not be the best option. Logically one might think that if the relationship didn’ t work before, then the best option would be to move on.
When the relationship did work before plus there didn’ t seem to be a reason for it to end, then it is only organic that one would do all they can to get back with their ex. What comes down to is the fact that an emotional connection has been made and so, logic or reason can have very little impact.
When someone is in a relationship that is going well and then out of nowhere it just ends and this could be an abrupt end, it is could make one wonder so what happened. They could end up feeling mystified and also have no idea why it has come to an end.
And even if they are aware of what wasn’ t working, their mind could filter these reasons out. One then only made a decision to focus on what was right and to ignore what was wrong. If they can think about more positives than negatives, after that this is going to cause one to feel even more convinced that it shouldn’ t have ended.
However , if one is in a relationship that is not going well and then before long it comes to an end, it is not likely to make one wonder what happened. The evidence is going to be there and there is after that no confusion as to why is is at a an end.
But simply because the evidence is there, it doesn’ t mean that one is going to accept this. They might start to idealise the relationship and start to see what they want to see; instead of the thing that was taking place.
And just because the relationship had not been working, it won’ t always stop someone form trying to get back again with their ex. If it was functioning, then it is to be expected that one would do all they can to restore the connection.
This is not something one has to do all by themselves either; since there is help available. One can be assisted through reading books, posts and they can have coaching. There are even mean casters out there that offer to get back together people.
A Shared Choice
When a couple are in a relationship, ideally it should be through choice and not through panic or obligation. So if one had been to work on themselves in order to get back again with their ex, then it is clear that they are not violating another person. And yet, when one was to use control, adjustment and even a ‘ spell’, this shows that they are trying to violate someone else.
And if this is what is occurring, one would need to ask themselves the reason why they want to get back with their ex. If they truly loved or liked each other, they would want what’ s best for them. If this means that they want someone to be a part of their life then so be it, but if not, this is something that one will have to accept.
Whenever one has formed an emotional connection to someone, it is not going to be easy to let go. If this was a romantic relationship that worked, then one is not always going to want to let go. The fact they may be attached to them, could be interpreted like a sign that they are meant to be together.
And the same interpretation could be formed even if the relationship was not functioning; simply because they feel attached to the other person. Allowing go can be painful even when the connection wasn’ t work. As a result of having this attachment, it is going to be painful to not have this person around anymore.
So for some people this attachment is going to reflect the truth and that is that they are meant to be collectively. But for others, it is just going to reflect what is going on for them and therefore have nothing to do with the other person or the relationship.
Being with the other individual is then a way for them to manage their emotions and for them to feel a lot better. What the other person wants is definitely then not taken into account and one has been motivated by their own need to feel a lot better. The other person’ s needs plus wants are then completely disregarded.
And the emotions that one is trying to regulate through being with the other individual could relate to the present day relationship and they can also relate to ones childhood many years. The present relationship has then activated trapped emotions from their past and if one is not aware of this, they can end up believing that the other person is definitely causing them.
The other person is then believed to be in control of how they feel and based on this, they are the just ones who can make them feel better. What this would show is that one has turn out to be emotionally dependent on the other person.
So there is the chance that one is meant to be using their ex and also the chance that they are not. And it will be important for one to reflect on the fact that their ex is an individual who has their own needs and wants.
If one is suffering psychologically, they may need to seek the assistance of the therapist or a healer. When one has an emotional build up from their previous, it is going to make it difficult for them to find and to think clearly.
Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JUNIOR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His informative commentary and analysis covers all of the aspects of human transformation; love, collaboration, self-love, and inner awareness. Along with several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound help and advice. Current projects include “ A Dialogue With The Heart” and “ Communication Made Easy. ”